People lately have been asking us why we have been so open and that they are grateful that we are sharing our journey. My thoughts on this is that if our situation helps others, it is for the best.
I don’t feel as though infertility should be a taboo subject. For a lot of people, there is no way they are telling people about what they are going through. Many of them don’t say anything ever. It is their right to not talk about the trials and pain that they have gone through to achieve that pregnancy or to have their child. People don’t always understand about infertility and they can say things that unintentionally hurt.
WHO has just diagnosed infertility as a disease. This is a huge milestone as it might make it possible for many more people to be able to treat their infertility. Only about 15% of couples diagnosed with infertility actually go through with treatment. Treatment costs are so high that many couples end up going broke trying treatments. I hope that someday insurance will cover treatment for infertility. Even if it is only a couple of cycles. It would help many couples realize what they want and know that they have given it a shot.
I don’t want to rant about things, but as we are just coming into this disease, it is a subject close to us. I am glad that we are able to share this with others. Personally it has been a blessing as we are able to talk to people without getting the typical “So when are you having kids?” question. I am glad that we have told people because when we have a crappy day because of results or whatnot, we have people who understand even if they aren’t going through it.
One of the blogs I was reading the other day talked about whether or not to tell people about trying to conceive. It’s main point was that telling people helped make it real, and then when things ended badly, there was a support network that helped her grieve.
Thank you for being our support network! You mean a lot to us, and I don’t know how we would be doing if we had kept everything to ourselves and tried to deal with this alone in Texas. We love you!